Love Quarrel ?

I do not believe there is a quarel free relations somewhere around the world. Right, quarel or argument are emothions, but the we should think not about the number of arguments in a relations, but about how the argurments are usually solved. Watching my parents who married almost 25 years now I never seen them really arguing hard. There were quarels and tears, but they were never turning into something wild. They were solving the problem, not creating more problems. That is what a believe to be right for long term relations. I failed to do the same myself when dating my ex-boyfriend, as we had terrible fights with screams and tears and more and more problems, but less and less communication and understanding between two of us. In the end we broke up, because we realized we are not able to change it. Something just wrong in our couple. He is a great guy, but we just were not meant to be together. We still friends and still had some arguments from time to time, so I guess we made the right decision when decided to break up.

Arguments may or may not lead to quarrel. Any argument lead to quarrel only when one or both not respecting each other's point of view. If the 'Winning' is only the strategy behind an argument, then it would probably end up to quarrel. In a relation, one should understand that there wont be winning or loosing. Any relationship may raise arguments because every person in this world is very unique, hence there might be deviations in views/perspectives. Argument should start to solve problems, but not to raise problems(many times this is only the case). If arguments started for raising problem, then that relation may no longer a relation.